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Thriving Beyond Belief with Cheryl Scruggs

Mar 21, 2018

Today my guest on the podcast is Nicole Zasowski.  Nicole is married to Jimmy, they have a two year old son and currently live in Connecticut.  Nicole is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Connecticut where she has a private practice. She earned her BA in Psychology from Pepperdine University and her Masters of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fuller Theology Seminary School of Psychology. In addition to her practice, Nicole serves as a Restoration Therapist and Trainer several times a year at  The Hideaway Experience an intensive marriage retreat at WinShape Retreat Center in Rome, Georgia.  She cherishes her time with these couples and feels that she has “a front row seat to God’s miracles and in ninety-six hours gets to see the transformation in so many couples lives.”

In our interview Nicole shares with me the challenges she faced as she and her husband made a major move across the country, how she has began removing idols from her life, their struggle with infertility, and how she has learned that when God calls us to do something He will equip us and give us what we need.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, Nicole talks about two common themes many women face today, loneliness and performance. She understands that many women do not recognize they are in “performance mode” or that they are in pain (loneliness).

Are you in “performance mode” and what do you do when you are in pain?  Nicole has outlined four common coping behaviors many women experience and encourages you to reach out to someone if you have these feelings.

  • Shaming yourself
  • Controlling everything and others around you
  • Blaming others and getting really angry
  • Escaping or numbing out of life with addictive behaviors

In conclusion, Nicole and I talk about the keys to a healthy marriage and relationships.  I love what she says, “Nothing changes if nothing changes and we each must own our own stuff for this to ever happen.”

I hope you gain wisdom from this interview, and find peace in knowing that you can become vulnerable and you don’t need to cover the cracks and scars in your life. Let God’s light into those cracks which then become beacons of light.

Grab your coffee and enjoy my interview with Nicole Zasowski.